Becoming, Being and Compassion
When it comes to transformation and becoming. They are technically a processes that happens. But not in the way most people think, as it is not about thinking. More about realisation. I suppose the entire thing boils down often to the illusion of seeking and finding being separate things. Even the the search for meaning and self-development is missing the point. It never has been about self-development as in making ourselves better. Same with these virtues to act like.
It always has been about accepting ourselves how we are. To truly be present with all the parts of us. Hold ones inner child gently and lovingly. Same with ones darker side. That too deserves the same understanding and love. Even if we don't want to act on the darker things. There is often an underlying pain there. So really it is about presence. To be with yourself and be with all the parts of you. Like one big warm hug. If from all the staring into the abyss of the Collective Shadow I have learned one thing, and from all the different archetypes and their rituals and original wholeness. It is that all of these different archetypes are as much part of us.
Same with the Divine Feminine, the Sovereignty Goddess, or even the Great Mother. And some of them too hold their own unexpressed pain. That is not just personal due to our own experiences in the culture and time we are in, but also something collective and ancient. It is through allowing us to feel this within ourselves. Our own unmet needs, childhood trauma's, pains of the world, that we not only cultivate true compassion, but also deeper what is deemed virtues. How else are we to be able to show true compassion if not knowing ourselves and our own suffering. To have been able to sit with this part of us with the loving kindness it deserves. As to only act out virtues does not cultivate them, and often leads to notions of virtue and sins, or things that are bad. Yet even our own anger, grief and sadness too deserves our love and understanding.
Only then can we truly sit with others in compassionate understanding, that can truly see the other. As first we have to realise the “other” in ourselves. That all these things we see as separate and other, are as much reflections of ourselves. Our own pain and suffering. Same with the archetypes I mentioned. We might elevate them to great heights and see them as far removed from us, yet they too are within us, as much as present within the world. It is easy to fall into the externalisation of these things onto the world itself. We might want to go out in to the world and act virtuous and be compassionate. Yet compassion and kindness are not acts, they are states of being.
It is because so many of us live within a state of duality, projection, ignorance and externalisation. Ignorant of their own true nature. We can't see our own true nature, yet realise that in all others. Beyond the external illusions that people think that they are. Which today had made me profoundly sad about how so many can't see this and what this does for them, has done to me, and does for all people. That we all share in this same nature, yet most can't see it. Can’t see their own beingness. That we are already complete as we are. All parts are already within us. We just have to realise such and if there is trauma hold them in a loving embrace.